Spouses - The Difference
Over the years, I've talked a lot about military
they are and the price they pay for freedom too. The funny
thing about it,
is most military spouses don't consider themselves different
spouses. They do what they have to do, bound together not
by blood or
merely friendship, but with a shared spirit whose origin is in
very essence of what love truly is. Is there truly a
difference? I think
there is. You have to decide for yourself.
Other spouses get married and look forward to building equity in
home and putting down family roots. Military spouses get
married and know
they'll live in base housing or rent, and their roots must be
short so they
can be transplanted frequently.
Other spouses decorate a home with flair and personality that
last a lifetime. Military spouses decorate a home with
flare tempered with
the knowledge that no two base houses have the same size windows
size rooms. Curtains have to be flexible and multiple sets
are a plus.
Furniture must fit like puzzle pieces.
Other spouses have living rooms that are immaculate and seldom
Military spouses have immaculate living room/dining room combos.
coffee table got a scratch or two moving from Germany, but it
Other spouses say good-bye to their spouse for a business trip
know they won't see them for a week. They are lonely, but
Military spouses say good-bye to their deploying spouse and know
won't see them for months, or for a remote, a year. They
are lonely, but
Other spouses, when a washer hose blows off, call Maytag and
write a check out for getting the hose reconnected.
Military spouses will cut the water off and fix it themselves.
Other spouses get used to saying "hello" to friends
they see all the
time. Military spouses get used to saying
"good-bye" to friends made the
last two years.
Other spouses worry about whether their child will be class
next year. Military spouses worry about whether their
child will be
accepted in yet another new school next year and whether that
be the worst in the city...again.
Other spouses can count on spouse participation in special
...birthdays, anniversaries, concerts, football games,
even the birth of a child. Military spouses only count on
because they realize that the Flag has to come first if freedom
survive. It has to be that way.
Other spouses put up yellow ribbons when the troops are
across the globe and take them down when the troops come home.
Military spouses wear yellow ribbons around their hearts and
never go away.
Other spouses worry about being late for mom's Thanksgiving
Military spouses worry about getting back from Japan in time for
And other spouses are touched by the television program showing
elderly lady putting a card down in front of a long, black wall
on it. The card simply says "Happy Birthday, Sweetheart.
You would have
been sixty today." A military spouse is the lady with
the card. And the
wall is the Vietnam Memorial.
I would never say military spouses are better or worse than
are. But I will say there is a difference. And I
will say that our
country asks more of military spouses than is asked of other
I will say, without hesitation, that military spouses pay just
as high a
price for freedom as do their active duty husbands or wives.
price they pay is even higher. Dying in service to our
country isn't near as
hard as loving someone who has died in service to our country,
to live without them.
God bless our military spouses for all they freely give.
And God bless America.
By Colonel Steven Arrington (USAF)